Girl Meets Boy, Or Is It Boy Meets Girl?

Girl Meets Boy, Or Is It Boy Meets Girl?

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Black Friday is our wedding anniversary. Now before you make a big deal about it, we must mention that we really don’t put much stock in celebrating this date. It’s not because we don’t value our marriage, but because we value our relationship as a whole more. Our decision to commit to each other, to spend the rest of our lives together, was a very deliberate decision.

After six years of dating, we knew the ups and the downs of being together. We surely weren’t in a daze of love and/or lust, thinking that everything would be just dandy. Actually, after just a few months of dating, we took a few weeks to reflect on the relationship and the other person. We made a list of the top ten fears and/or negative things we worried about in the other person. We then sat down together and discussed each and every item on our lists. This is just one way we went out of our way, making ourselves uncomfortable, to be sure we were ready for ‘us’.

To celebrate our wedding anniversary as our anniversary of commitment, would be negating the 6 years of hard work, joyous experiences, challenges, laughter, fights, romance, tears and silly love that we’d experienced together. Once we stood in front of the magistrate, we had already committed to each other everything and more than we did that day in our vows. In actuality, it was a formality really.

It’s A Romantic Formality Though

In the latter half of 2013, Shannon was working long, hard hours at the office. Work weeks of 80-90 hours, spread between contracting and a full-time position. She rarely had an afternoon, let alone a full day off. Thanksgiving and Black Friday of 2013 were going to be her first days off in months.

In Shannon’s Words:

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It was my first time off work in so long. I just wanted to spend time with Sergio and to relax. He told me to be ready for a walk at 10 AM on Black Friday. I knew he was up to something, but it wasn’t that much out of the usual. I figured he had something small up his sleeve, maybe a walk to a special view point or to a shop in downtown to show me something. We were bundled up in our winter walking clothes, jackets and sweats, since it was just above freezing outside. But, it was a beautiful clear day. Sergio, took me to the front of the courthouse and stopped. He held my hands and looked me in the eyes. I could see small tears welling up in his eyes. He told me that he loved me and that it was only fitting to ask on Black Friday since I was the best deal he'd ever gotten. He then asked me to marry him.

I was shocked. I had nothing to say but yes! We walked into the courthouse and followed the signs. It was simple enough, just paperwork, show our picture identifications, pay a small fee and stand in front of the judge. Forty-five minutes later we walked out of the courthouse married. I was so overwhelmed as the judge married us, that I had trouble repeating the vows. Frankly, I don’t even remember what they were. But it was a great day. The day that we put on paper our commitment to each other.

I now won't throw away the sweat pants or sweatshirts we wore that day. Someday, I'll make a blanket out of them! (Sergio here! I’m waiting, patiently waiting)

In Sergio’s Words:

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Yes, I proposed to Shannon, in front of the court house, on Black Friday. But there’s more to the story than that. What she didn’t tell you is that we'd already been engaged for two years. Allow me to tell you the WHOLE story. We were sitting together in our room one evening and she looked over at me and blurted it out, “Will you marry me?”. She wanted to take it back but couldn’t. It was already out. I, of course said yes. She asked if I would propose to her instead, but what is done, is done. Fast forward two years, life and work balance were crazy. I had been trying to marry her for about a month but couldn’t because of her seven-day work schedule! Finally, three days before Thanksgiving 2013 she was told that she'd be off for two days. I leapt into action (think ninja, not cat) and started calling the courthouse and piecing together the details to make sure we could do it on Black Friday, 2013. In the end, it all worked out. The courthouse was open, it had an ATM inside the lobby, and the first judge we called, on the list of about 30, was in chambers, available, and willing to marry us. Woohoo! And now, here we are, three years later, happily married!

And now back to our ‘regularly schedule program’.

Back to Our Anniversary

It’s our third wedding anniversary, and as you know we don’t celebrate this date. However, we do recognize it. This year, Shannon asked, “Are we doing anything special for our anniversary?” Sergio looked shocked and responded, “We’re in Ireland, what more do you want?!”

So, that’s the punch line. Not much after all of the backstory. But today is our anniversary, we’re in Ireland (on our way to the UK), and living our happily ever after. 

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